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Here is a written version of the wedding ceremony and our vows...

Preet Chopra, our officiant:
Welcome.  I want to express my warmest welcome and gratitude to the family and treasured friends of Joseph and Katherina.  For we are here to celebrate love.  The love shared between Joseph and Katherina.  The words we say today have no magic or prophetic powers. The power of the wedding vows is merely a reflection of a reality that already exists between Joseph and Katherina.  

I humbly offer the words of William A. Peterson:
The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say, "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted.
The courtship should not end with the honeymoon, It should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy

It is speaking words of appreciation,
And demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo
Or the wife to have the wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
Understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere In which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the Spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which
The independence is equal, dependence is mutual, And the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner,
It is BEING the right partner.
This is "The Art of Marriage".

Katherina and Joseph, I hope you will keep these words upon your hearts so you may remember them.

Parent and Community Blessing
From the beginning of time, people from all over this earth have united in marriage.  This is a ritual where two individuals from different families join together.  This is a process that forges community.   At this time, we ask the parents of the Bride, Joseph‚Äö√Ñ√¥s children and honored guests to come forth to bless this marriage.

Everyone please stand, come forward and join hands around Katherina and Joseph

At this time I ask Katherina‚Äö√Ñ√¥s parents to bless this marriage. 
Do you, Jim and Susan, who have lovingly raised and nurtured Katherina, offer your blessing for this marriage, promising to support them, guide them, understand them and encourage them in their joyous endeavor in the years ahead?  If you agree, please say, "We do". 

(They said yes.)

At this time I ask Joseph’s children, Randon and Jordan, to bless this marriage.
Do you, Randon and Jordan, offer your blessing for this marriage, promising to support them, guide them, understand them and encourage them in their joyous endeavor in the years ahead? If you agree, please say “We do”.

(They said yes, too.)

And to the witnesses and treasured guests here today, I ask the same question. 
Do you offer your blessing for their marriage, promising to support them, guide them, understand them and encourage them in their joyous endeavor in the years ahead?  If you agree, please say, "We do"

(You did!).

Joseph and Katherina have each written vows to each other which they will now present.

Joseph:
Katherina, when we were very new to each other I told you that I was looking for my partner. I was looking for the woman with whom I would share my life. I told you that to me, the details of our lives together would be just that … details. That it didn’t matter where we lived, whether or not we had children or what careers we chose to pursue. I told you that with my partner we would be a team. We would make plans and set goals and create a life of our dreams together, and as long as we were together all those details would work out. I told you that love and that primary relationship was the most important thing to me. Well, now I know that I have found you and I am standing here to tell you and all of our people that I choose you to be the one.

I love you when you're difficult and when I'm difficult. I love you when you make me crazy; partially because you make me crazy. I seem to have no choice. I realize now that I will always, always love you. I love that you give me room to be who I am. I love that you are silly and beautiful and creative and brilliant and you make every day a story worth telling. your independence and your strength. I want to share everything good with you and shield you from everything bad. I want to make a home with you that is the place we both want to be.

I want our lives together to be the exception to the rule. I want to fix every mistake and make a million more and always know that it’s you and me together, no matter what. I want us to be side by side for as long as we live. And with all that in my heart, I take you, Katherina, To be my wife, to be the companion of my days, to bear together whatever sorrow and adversity life may lay upon us and share together whatever joy and fulfillment life may hold in store.

I pledge to support you in your hopes and dreams, as if they were my own. I pledge to care for you, respect you, honor you, cherish you, and to love you.

Katherina:
Joseph, before I met you, I didn’t know a person could be a home. You are the most comfortable, safe, warm person – and place – that I know.

I love your honesty, support and deep emotional intelligence… and I cherish how well you listen to me. I am happier and healthier, in all ways, when I am with you. You are my best sounding board, collaborator and adviser.

Although I have never wanted to commit to anything or anyone FOREVER, you make it easy – no, DESIRABLE – to rest my heart in you and call you my home. You also inspire me to claim you as my own.

I want our marriage to be amazing, and I will do everything in my power to make it so. I promise to hear you, respect you, and be responsible with your heart. I will give you room to be your best self, and also I will be your strongest advocate. I promise to be your finest friend, lover, champion, nurturer and occasional troublemaker.

I love you with all my heart and take you to be my husband and I will be your wife.

Exchange of Rings
This is the point in the ceremony where one usually talks about the wedding bands being a perfect circle, having no beginning and no end. But we all know that these rings do have a beginning. Rock is dug up from the earth. Metal is liquefied in a furnace at a thousand degrees. Hot metal is poured into a mold, cooled and then painstakingly polished. Something beautiful is made from raw elements.

Love is like that. It‚Äö√Ñ√¥s hot, dirty work. It comes from humble beginnings, made by imperfect beings. It‚Äö√Ñ√¥s the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all.  With that in mind, Randon, may I have the rings?

Joseph, place the ring on Katherina’s finger and repeat after me:
With this ring / I thee wed / and pledge my life to yours.

Katherina, place this ring on Joseph’s finger and repeat after me:
With this ring / I thee wed / and pledge my life with yours.

“I am the sky,” so says the Hindu bridegroom to the bride. “You are the earth. We are sky and earth united. You are my husband. You are my wife. My feet shall run because of you. My feet shall dance because of you. My heart shall beat because of you. My eyes see because of you. My mind thinks because of you. And I shall love because of you.”

Joseph and Katherina, in the presence of your family and friends who have joined you to share this moment of joy in your lives, you have declared your deep love and affection for each other.  You have stated your wish to live together, always open to a deeper, richer friendship and partnership.  Your have formed your own union, based upon respect and honor. Therefore, it is my joyful responsibility to officially proclaim your union as "Husband and Wife".  You may now seal your marriage with a kiss.

 

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